Sadly, this was an insight: Love sometimes requires change, sometimes requires resisting change, sometimes requires urging change. Love sometimes requires willingness to give, sometimes requires willingness to receive, sometimes requires standing back. There is never a general rule, or a handy procedure. It is about you in relation to a specificity that is not you, but that involves you, and the way must be felt, thought, lived and done. It is responsive, responsible, responding response.

I tend to look at love from a single angle at a time, but this fails to do justice to love’s requirements. Love does not require ones heart or soul or mind or strength: and, and, and, and.