When I close my eyes, the blackness I see is not blindness.
When I close my eyes and see blindness, the distinction I have failed to perceive is blindness.
When I close my eyes and see only blackness, recalling that blackness and blindness were once the same to me, I can see blackness against contrasting blindness, sight against contrasting sightlessness, and something against contrasting nothingness.
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It is the essence of blindness that it is not seen. That’s obvious.
What is less obvious is why people who “know” this fact habitually dismiss what doesn’t make immediate sense to them as nonsense, obfuscation, pointless sophistry or deception.
If you can’t discover blindness with the immediacy of sight, how can you become aware of it?
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Knowledge of ignorance is practical knowledge.
Purely theoretical knowledge of ignorance is more ignorance.
The ignorant belief that ignorance is known as a fact (as opposed to a practical stance toward potential coming-to-know) is the root of that peculiarly turbulent intellectual stagnation we call “romanticism”.
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To learn a new fact, all one needs is smarts. To gain an insight one also needs hunger, humility and the capacity to trust. These conditions rarely coincide with power. This is why Nietzsche says “power makes stupid.”
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Invalidation of the testimony of alien perspectives (“the Other”) is the most potent tool we have to stabilize our ignorance. We find many forms of objective justification for never considering the objective claims of the alien other and to keep that other a speaking, behaving object within our own privileged subjectivity. Some of these justifications are cynical, some are credulous, some are rigorously skeptical, some are sloppily sentimental, some are practical, some are fantastic, some are psychological, some are epistemological, some are religious, some are scientific, some are collectivistic, some are individualistic. They come in many forms, but they all stuff our ears with the belief that we already know what we need to know.
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Somehow, one way or another, we manage to make what we don’t want to hear impossible to say.
Too often, when we need to share something of the highest personal significance we are faced with a painful choice: either make it easy to be misunderstood or face the indignation, impatience, frustration or scorn of those who wish always to already know.
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To relate to an other as a Thou-subject and not an It-object means to attempt to share subjectivity, which means to share objectivity.
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If you do not understand what your friend says to you when your friend tells you something, this shows that your understanding of your friend is incomplete.
If you do not understand what your friend says to you when your friend tells you something crucially important, you have no right to believe that you understand your friend.
If you do not understand what your friend is saying to you when your friend tells you something crucially important, and you are unwilling to understand what your friend is telling you, this person is not really your friend. If you believe differently, you do not know what friendship is.
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This is my exegesis on the pop-feminist accusation: “You treat me like an object.” This statement is misleading, though. It isn’t that anyone minds having their objective, bodily being acknowledged, admired or desired. It is that this is not enough. A human relationship requires that the subjective dimension of our being be acknowledged, admired and desired as well. But due to the ambiguity of the word “subject” we can’t very well say “You don’t treat me like a subject.”
If it didn’t sound ridiculous and pompous and if people were prepared to understand what that means, a better way to say this would be: “You do not relate to me as a Thou.” “Thou” includes the entirety of the other’s being — body and spirit.
Most cultures have ways of explicitly honoring the Thou: making the gassho, saying “namaste”, saying “shallom”.
The best way of honoring the Thou is to listen intently and respectfully. Re-spect, “back”-“look” … to regard the other as one who looks back and sees you as part of her world — hopefully a world in which she sees you as a Thou looking back at her. This is the ground for sharing subjectivity and objectivity and also the ground of ethics.
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A blind man knows he is blind because he is told so and shown so.